Oh Blog how I have missed you! I've missed your enlightenment, your freedom and your release that it gives me! But I have been otherwise occupied ;)
Over the last couple of weeks I have succumbed to the world of Mr. Grey. For those of you living under a rock and have no idea who or what I am talking about, it's a little story aptly name "50 Shades of Grey". Well a trilogy of a story I was hooked, lined and sunk into. I had been hearing about these books for a month or so and because if anyone is like me once they are into a book, there's nothing than can stray you away until it is finished. I was like that with Twilight Saga (read all 4 in 7 days), and I don't think I talked to any of my family for that entire week. My husband thought I was possessed by something unnatural because I was still reading at 4am!
Well enter...50 Shades of Grey and the very enigmatic Mr. Christian Grey. The book is narrated by a Miss Anastasia Steele, but it is Mr. Grey that captures your heart.....and quite possibly your slumbering libido! I'm not about go on and on and give a full book review (because it would spoil it for those who have not read it), but this book had me holding my breath at certain episodes! It was VERY descriptive and very HOT! You truly would have to be a nun if this book didn't...do things to you on some level or another. I'm not in any way ashamed in commenting about a certain prowess it gives you as a woman while reading it or how it may or may not give women "wings" to explore their own sexuality and play making with their significant others or would-be lovers. I had even heard at one point in an office that men were buying the series for their wives in an attempt to "spice up" their sex lives. So essentially, yes the book is lovingly geared for the 25-55 year old women who may or may not need a little encouragement to explore themselves and their partners.
So here is what I really got out of the series. First off, the series is ultimately at its core, a LOVE story. True there are very descriptive and gratuitous sex scenes and kind of let's you into the BDSM world, but not so much that you are...overstimulated. It's really about a woman who meets a closed off, don't touch me, soul scorched man and brings unconditional love to his life. Little by little she brings forth a life he never thought he was worthy of. There are truly parts in the story where you as the reader REALLY want to be Ana and curl up into his lap and stroke his hair and chase his nightmares away. And then there are other parts where you possible want to go into the "Red Room of Pain". The series is such an emotional rollercoaster, one minute you're laughing because he is devilishly charismatic and the next minute your holding your breath because of the intensity of his wanting and needing of her flesh. It's like he needs her like he needs air!
And why shouldn't we all feel like that in a relationship? Why do we as couples make it so complicated? Love should be that holding your breath, needing like air, butterflies in your tummy kind of feeling all the time shouldn't it? That's what brought you together in the first place isn't it? The fireworks and sparks! I realize bringing children into the world is a huge responsibility and should never be taken lightly. After all your are raising your own legacy to carrying on our world in the hopes that they take care of it better than we did. But being completely consumed by your children, careers and finances will only leave you as strangers when they've all left the nest. After the children, careers well established and finances settle down most couples have no idea why they are still together or don't know each other at all because they didn't take the time to reconnect every once in awhile during all the hustle and bustle. I think that's why they really call it "empty nest syndrome". It's not the fact that the children have flown, it's because you're left with only one person to devote all your time to and it's scares the crap out of you! You don't proper take the time to watch one another grow and grow with each other. You're left standing there saying "Well what do we do now"? Where have all the butterflies gone? No flint to make the spark.
I think that's a huge margin why couples get divorced. Yes, agreed there are always other circumstances, such as infidelity or abuse. But I believe a lot of it has to do with the fact that couples don't grow together as a partnership, they grow apart.
So by all means have a look at these books, smut or not...it's very enlightening.... And if you're thinking that love can never be like a story...why can't it be?? Somebody wrote it and there are thousands of books that write about love, fantasy, erotic or otherwise...so if someone is writing about it...it's completely tangible and even quite attainable...if you're willing to put in the work....
Yes always the hopeless romantic at heart...... Happy exploring... ;)